Number 7: She’s always competing with you.
Now, this could mean that she tries to look younger or better than you. She might even flirt with your girlfriends or boyfriends or try to befriend your friends and then talk badly to you about them. Or she may even want to ensure that she has a better education, job, or just makes more money than you. She will always want to be higher or feel better than you. And if she doesn’t, then she’ll try to take you down a notch. They can do a lot of this manipulation in order to always feel like they’re on top and you’re just down below because that’s where they’re the most comfortable.
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Number 8: She is always the victim.
It doesn’t matter what happened or what she did to cause an upset, it will never be her fault, and she will always blame everyone else. And this kind of goes hand in hand with the inability to apologize for anything that she’s done. She always thinks that she’s the one that was hurt and will flip things around. Hence, like gaslighting, you can see how all these signs kind of lead to this one, which is really the crux of narcissism: they’re always the ones that are in pain, they’re the victim. We should feel so bad for them. ‘How dare we do X, Y, or Z?’ without taking any recognition, or any responsibility for their role and what happened.
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And growing up in that kind of situation can make us think that we’re always the ones that are at fault Because that’s what we were told. And so we will always apologize because we will never get an apology from them. And I know this sucks to say, but we can’t wait for them to apologize in order to move on. That’s giving them too much power. We don’t have to wait for an apology from someone else in order to move on. And all these signs can cause us to be anxious, a perfectionist, or struggle with all sorts of other mental health issues. We can even find ourselves dating or having friends that are just like her, which is why it’s so incredibly important that we notice these signs and find ways to heal from the damage.
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