Number 2: She can dish out tons of criticism but can’t take any of it herself.
And I think the way to kind of understand this is to understand narcissistic personality disorder or NPD. Now, someone with NPD puts on this fake facade. I like to think of it like a Faberge Egg. They’re very pretty, they’re very decorated, people like them, they can be very charismatic, they put up a good front. However, for those of us on the inside, that their children, we see them fall apart, we see them lash out because once that facade is down or once that facade is in danger, meaning someone kind of points out, like, ‘Hey, maybe you could have done it this way,’ that facade falls, and it’s like rage.
Related: 9 Demeaning Things Narcissists Say.
And it’s really because, not that I’m condoning their behavior at all, but the reason this happens is because that fake facade helps someone with NPD feel okay and not so under threat all the time. Because it’s usually not 100%, but usually, it’s born out of trauma. So, they can be very critical of others, but if you, at all, try to scratch that surface, they can’t handle it.
Number 3: Sharing Private Information.
She shares private information about you with others without your permission, especially when doing so would give her something exciting or intriguing to talk about. Like, it makes her look good. And I’ve heard from a ton of you, and also even in that book that I read, I’ve heard people talk about how their mothers will share, like, when they started their period, their first boyfriend or girlfriend, or something embarrassing that they caught you doing that is perfectly normal and natural when it comes to development. But when we’re going through it, we don’t want other people to know. It’d be akin to having a wet dream as a young boy or getting your first bra or your period as a girl, and you go, you get home, and your mom is sitting around with a bunch of her friends, and she’s telling them about that.
Related: 6 Rumours Narcissists Like To Spread About You.
Mortifying and also without your permission, and a complete overstep of boundaries. There’s no care or concern for you or what that could mean to you, none of that. It gives them something to talk about, or it could even be to show how good of a parent they are, right? ‘Oh, they took you, and they did this thing.’ It’s all to boost them up, to make them look good. And so, they’ll share it as a way of, like, ‘Yeah, but I talked to them, and I handled it, went to the store.’ And it’s about them, and so they’re sharing your personal information as a way to make themselves look good, and it can feel really bad.
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