Number 5: They produce unnecessary noise and fake alarms.
This one sounds unbelievable until you have lived through it. They fake snoring—not the natural kind that comes from a blocked airway or exhaustion, but the exaggerated, forced kind that feels staged. It’s loud, irregular, and so obvious you can tell they are doing it on purpose. When you complain, they mock you, call you sensitive, or laugh it off. But the pattern continues.
On top of that, they set alarms they do not intend to wake up to. At 3:00 in the morning, the alarm goes off, jolting you out of sleep. Your heart races. Your body is thrown into panic. You wake up fully, but they keep lying there, pretending not to hear it, or hitting snooze with no plan of getting up. The cycle repeats, leaving you in a constant state of disrupted rest.
The effect is cumulative. Sleep works best when it is deep and undisturbed. By inserting these unnecessary noises and shocks into the night, they make sure you never sink into that healing state. You wake up groggy, restless, and frustrated while they act as if it’s nothing. It’s psychological warfare disguised as a nightly nuisance.
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Number 6: They pick fights right before bed.
This is their most damaging habit. Just when the night should be quiet, they start a fight. They bring up something random, accuse you of something silly, or reopen old arguments. Instead of falling asleep peacefully, you end up crying, arguing, or begging for understanding.
They know exactly what they’re doing. At night, your body is supposed to release calming hormones that help you relax and heal. But when they drag you into conflict, they mess with that process. Instead of calm, your body gets flooded with stress hormones. Your heart races, your mind won’t stop, and sleep disappears.
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You spend the night tossing, turning, and replaying the fight in your head. Sometimes, they make it worse. After the fight, they put pillows between you and them, turn their back, and shut you out. The very place that should feel close and safe suddenly feels cold and rejecting. If you’re sensitive to abandonment, it feels like being exiled in your own bed.
It’s not just emotional neglect—it’s physical rejection. And it leaves you falling asleep in the state they want you in: broken.
Let’s bring it all together. These six bedtime habits may look different on the surface, but they share one purpose: to destroy you. The narcissist does not want you calm. They do not want you healed. They do not want you waking up strong. They want you exhausted, drained, and dependent because tired people are easier to control. When you recognize these patterns, you begin to see the bigger picture.
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